Updated: Dec 1, 2021
If we don't ask, we don't get. I've heard that so many times and yet I never really asked for what I wanted because I didn't really believe I'd get it. First time that hit home for me when was I was a single mother to a 6 year old. The job I had was demanding more and more of my time and energy without financial compensation. It was extremely stressful (actually down right torturous) as I had to establish strong boundaries I would not cross. I had been reading the book by Wayne Dyer "Manifest Your Destiny" which helped me understand what went into the process of manifesting. I focused on having more time to give to my son so his needs could be met. Just a few months had gone by, there were upheavals at the company and they lost a major client. I thought I was a candidate for layoff because I was the one most resistant to their overtime demands even though I was essential to the function of the department. I was just hoping I wouldn't be let go.
I had taken a day off to take my son to an orthopedic specialist where he was diagnosed with a rare but self-reversing bone disease. He needed time to heal, and that meant a month home, off his feet. As a single parent, I had no choice but to stay home with him. Before I could even wrap my head around this diagnosis and begin to think of how to ask for time off, I got a call from the manger. He said he wanted to let me know as soon as he could that I had been laid off. I actually felt relief that I didn't have to approach them about time off. They were offering me 6 months severance pay, unemployment insurance and COBRA health insurance. I knew I could not afford the COBRA. Without a seconds hesitation I asked if they would pay for my insurance for a year. It was a long-shot. I knew my son would be needing many more doctor visits, orthopedic support and more x-rays. The manager was taken back and said "I don't know if they will do THAT, but you know what? If you don't ask you don't get! I'll ask them." Don't you know, he called me later that day and said they would cover my health insurance for another year. Whew! I was so relieved I was able to now focus on my son's healing and then take the time I need to look for another job.
I stayed with the guidance of the book "Manifest Your Destiny". After one month my son was healed enough to go back to school with crutches. Just then the company called me and asked if I would come back to work for them. They recognized that I wanted time for my child and offered me a higher rate, full health benefits, and I could make my own schedule 3-4 days a week and I would be free of the demands for overtime without compensation!
"Manifest Your Destiny' is a book loaded with techniques to help you break free of old limiting beliefs. It provides fundamental guidance on how to create new beliefs which serve you.
The 9 Principles of Manifestation from Wayne Dyer
1. Live from Your Highest Self
"I have a divine ability to manifest and attract all that I need and desire."
This means no longer see yourself as a victim, stuck or subject to others actions. If you connect to your own inner being, recognize you are worthy, then your own power will emerge. You will stop reacting to situations and people. This is actually quite empowering as you start to believe it is okay to ask for what you want.
2. Learn to Trust Your Divine Inner Wisdom
"I trust in myself and in the wisdom that created me."
Your intuition will guide you. We are often set by default to survival mode because of past experiences and trauma. This is hitting the reset button. If you can recognize your divine self - you will know you have the wisdom and ability to activate the energies which change your life.
3. Honor Your Worthiness to Receive
"I deserve to experience divine abundance, for I am a part of God."
Recognize we are a part of the same energy as God/Source. You are certainly worthy of all good things. We, as spiritual beings, are all connected to each other and to Source and as so we are worthy - entitled - to receive. I see this as a great equalizer. No one is more or less deserving of receiving abundantly. We are all the same.
4. Realize that You Are Not Separate from Your Environment
"I am one with my surroundings, aware of the connective energy between me and my world."
We influence the people and situations around us. We are an active participant whether we recognize it or not, in creating the circumstances and experiences in our lives. You are responsible for the experiences you have.
5. Attract to Yourself What You Desire
"The divine creative power within me brings to me all that I want with happiness, love, and peace."
Take control of what you are contributing by your thoughts and actions. Your feelings are indicators of what you are thinking. It's your internal guidance system to help you identify what thoughts you need to change. Begin to focus in on what you want and why you want it. Start changing what you contribute energetically from a new perspective. Start changing your perspective, your thoughts, and your actions will change. You will see changes in your environment.
6. Connect to Your Divinity with Unconditional Love
"I express the energy of unconditional love to all people and all things in my life."
This was tough for me. It's not just about giving freely, unconditionally, it's about accepting yourself for all that you are. When you forgive yourself for your perceived flaws and failings you open yourself up to also receiving love unconditionally from not only yourself but others.
7. Detach from the Outcome
"I trust in the universal intelligence that created me to bring my desires to me in just the right way at the perfect time."
Let go of the ego. When we think we need it to happen in a certain way, or that we need a certain thing to get us where we want; this is your ego dictating how you should receive. Step 6 talks about focusing on what you want and why you want it. If you are really focusing on what you want in the end, not the means to get what you want, you will easily be able to detach to the outcome. The energies you put forth, how you are connecting to your divine self, that you believe you are worthy of it, will bring it all right to you. You don't need to plan how it arrives or when.
8. Acknowledge Your Results with Gratitude and Generosity
"I am deeply thankful for all that I've received, and I enjoy giving to others in the spirit of love and service."
Don't wait until you receive what you are asking for. Give thanks and express the joy of having already received what you want as you are asking for it. This is a game changer. Gratitude for receiving before you actually receive sets the energy of appreciation into full gear and you are so open to the joy of receiving that it has to come! You're not mucking up the works with doubt, fear and insecurities. If you are doubting and fearful, you are showing Source, that is what you want.
9. Meditate to the Sound of Creation
"I meditate each day to increase my awareness of the divine power within me. Through meditation, I am able to realize the beauty, grace, and love that directs my life and fulfills my deepest desires."
Wayne Dyer added a particular technique of manifesting with sound meditation. It is very effective when you are actively manifesting something specific. Here is the link to Wayne Dyer Morning and Evening Mediation
The meditation he created may be a little rough around the edges but, it is powerful. Just testing it out one day I focused on large sums of money coming to me in unusual ways. (I thought I was being "open" to the ways it could arrive). Later that day as I was walking and engrossed in a phone call, I saw something fall from a mans pocket ahead of me. I picked it up intending to give it to him but got swept up in the call. Absentmindedly, I put it in my purse and carried on. It occurred to me later that I just shoved something into my purse without looking at it. When I did look I was stunned. It was over $200! I felt so bad that I hadn't run after that man but was really amazed that the meditation worked!
If you're not able to spend 30 minutes in the morning and evening meditating, then try asking your Angels to help you. You still need to be meditating at least 10 minutes a day, and you still need to do the work as outlined above. Just ask your Angels to assist you.
Ask Your Guides And Angels For Help Manifesting
Each and every one of us has spirit guides and guardian angels. There are an infinite number of other angels ready to assist us. Angels are creation of divine love and want nothing more than for us to find peace and happiness. They can only help us if we give them permission to do so. Talk to your guide, your guardian angel or just call on all the angels! Talk to them as if they are your best friends. Talk to them in the form of prayer. Write it out and recite it as a ritual. It doesn't matter, just ask. Working with or connecting to angels brings us closer to God/Source/Universal Energies, In other words, unconditional love and tapping into that stream of love. Start talking to your angels and develop a relationship with them and you will always feel delightfully supported and never alone.
Techniques For Asking The Angels
1. Acknowledge the angels or whomever you are asking.
Call on your guardian angel, your guide or specific angels. The Archangel Chamuel for love, Archangel Michael for protection, Angels of Peace for easing tensions in situations, Archangel Ariel for protection of animals...or even Parking Angels, Driving Angels!
2. Ask for what you want.
Be specific, get to the heart of what you want, not what you think are the means to get you where you want to be. When my boiler broke, I asked for them to help me get heat. I didn't ask for the money to buy a new one, or for a specific way to get heat, I just asked for heat. (And I got the right repairman at the right time at the right price - free!)
3. Leave out what you don't want.
We tend to lace our prayers or asking with things we don't want. If you're afraid you might naturally say "Angels, I'm so afraid, thank you for protecting me". Instead say " Thank you angels for protecting me, I feel so safe knowing you are here"!
4. Show gratitude by thanking them for their help.
If you it phrase it in a way that shows gratitude for their help, it allows you feel as though you've already received it. That changes your vibration from pleading for it to appreciating that it has been given.
5. Affirm that it has happened.
Make it so by saying it is so! Some like to say "And so it is!" I say "TA-DA!" That kind of makes me happy which reinforces for me the joy of having received what I'm asking for.
An Example of Affirmative Asking of the Angels
This may seem small, for me it was huge. I always had a terrifying time turning across two lanes of traffic. Afraid that my timing would be off, I wouldn't see a car coming - especially at night. I would drive miles out of my way just to avoid making that turn across the traffic lanes. I used to say: "Angels please don't let me get hit or cause an accident, get me across the lanes safely". Ha! It never worked. Then I changed what I said to "Divine Angels of Driving, thank you so much for guiding me across the road into this turn safe and sound, this is so easy to do with you guiding me, TA-DA! Don't you know, there was a complete break in the traffic as though they parted the way for me. I was so freaking happy I was giddy all the way home. I can't say it worked as dramatically every time since then but it works every time. I say that prayer each time I'm about to enter the busy traffic lanes and I am always feeling safe and being guided at the right time.
It isn't a lot for us to learn, it's just a matter of mindfulness. Be aware of what you're asking for, and how you feel when you ask. Know you are worthy of receiving. Acknowledge their help and presence with gratitude. Manifest your new life!