If we don't ask, we don't get. I've heard that so many times and yet I never really asked for what I wanted because I didn't really believe I'd get it. First time that hit home for me when was I was a single mother to a 6 year old. The job I had was demanding more and more of my time and energy without financial compensation. It was extremely stressful (actually down right torturous) as I had to establish strong boundaries I would not cross. I had been reading the book by Wayne Dyer "Manifest Your Destiny" which helped me understand what went into the process of manifesting. I focused on having more time to give to my son so his needs could be met. Just a few months had gone by, there were upheavals at the company and they lost a major client. I thought I was a candidate for layoff because I was the one most resistant to their overtime demands even though I was essential to the function of the department. I was just hoping I wouldn't be let go.
I had taken a day off to take my son to an orthopedic specialist where he was diagnosed with a rare but self-reversing bone disease. He needed time to heal, and that meant a month home, off his feet. As a single parent, I had no choice but to stay home with him. Before I could even wrap my head around this diagnosis and begin to think of how to ask for time off, I got a call from the manger. He said he wanted to let me know as soon as he could that I had been laid off. I actually felt relief that I didn't have to approach them about time off. They were offering me 6 months severance pay, unemployment insurance and COBRA health insurance. I knew I could not afford the COBRA. Without a seconds hesitation I asked if they would pay for my insurance for a year. It was a long-shot. I knew my son would be needing many more doctor visits, orthopedic support and more x-rays. The manager was taken back and said "I don't know if they will do THAT, but you know what? If you don't ask you don't get! I'll ask them." Don't you know, he called me later that day and said they would cover my health insurance for another year. Whew! I was so relieved I was able to now focus on my son's healing and then take the time I need to look for another job.
I stayed with the guidance of the book "Manifest Your Destiny". After one month my son was healed enough to go back to school with crutches. Just then the company called me and asked if I would come back to work for them. They recognized that I wanted time for my child and offered me a higher rate, full health benefits, and I could make my own schedule 3-4 days a week and I would be free of the demands for overtime without compensation!
"Manifest Your Destiny' is a book loaded with techniques to help you break free of old limiting beliefs. It provides fundamental guidance on how to create new beliefs which serve you.
The 9 Principles of Manifestation from Wayne Dyer
1. Live from Your Highest Self
"I have a divine ability to manifest and attract all that I need and desire."
This means no longer see yourself as a victim, stuck or subject to others actions. If you connect to your own inner being, recognize you are worthy, then your own power will emerge. You will stop reacting to situations and people. This is actually quite empowering as you start to believe it is okay to ask for what you want.
2. Learn to Trust Your Divine Inner Wisdom
"I trust in myself and in the wisdom that created me."
Your intuition will guide you. We are often set by default to survival mode because of past experiences and trauma. This is hitting the reset button. If you can recognize your divine self - you will know you have the wisdom and ability to activate the energies which change your life.
3. Honor Your Worthiness to Receive
"I deserve to experience divine abundance, for I am a part of God."
Recognize we are a part of the same energy as God/Source. You are certainly worthy of all good things. We, as spiritual beings, are all connected to each other and to Source and as so we are worthy - entitled - to receive. I see this as a great equalizer. No one is more or less deserving of receiving abundantly. We are all the same.
4. Realize that You Are Not Separate from Your Environment
"I am one with my surroundings, aware of the connective energy between me and my world."
We influence the people and situations around us. We are an active participant whether we recognize it or not, in creating the circumstances and experiences in our lives. You are responsible for the experiences you have.